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5 Steps to Sensual Confidence

What are the benefits of being able to express your sensuality? 

Being able to free express your sensual nature can have real positive results in literally every aspect of your life; like having better communication skills, having more charisma, attractiveness and even an improved ability to manifest your intentions. 

Expressing your sensual nature, does not mean that you are changing your personality to be that of a promiscuous enchantress or a suave smooth-talker, flirtatiously sailing through everyday. It does however mean that you are comfortable in your own skin.  It means that you give and receive affection comfortably and you can fulfill your desires, free from guilt, shame and fear. 

Most of us are somewhat confused when it comes to our own sensuality, as just showing too much overt sexual interest, may have caused embarrassment in the past, perhaps even misunderstanding, or mistrust in a treasured relationship.

It is therefor quite understandable, how our subconscious mind would want to close ourselves off to free, unobstructed sensual expression and label it as something dangerous, unpredictable or unsafe. Yet there comes a time where every individual decides that enough is enough and their inner being urges them to test the water of their own ocean of expression.

Are you ready to express yourself in a way that is inviting to others, in a way that gives you confidence and magnetism?

Remember, sensual liberation has a very subjective meaning to every individual. To some it means being able to share their erotic fantasies or exploring intimacy with a greater range of people. To another it may mean holding hands in public or simply wearing a bathing suit out. 

So, your goals may differ from your friend’s and comparing yourself with them, may not be helpful. If you are unsure about exactly which goals to set for yourself, it is always helpful to work with a professional coach or therapist. 

So here are some suggested steps to follow:

  1. Identify your safe space. A really good place to start is a dance or yoga class, although many people choose to be safely at home. Every lesson life has taught you on where to close your authentic expression off, has also given you a parameter for exactly which circumstances you find safe, acceptable and agreeable to practice free unobstructed expression in, so that you can now become comfortable with the idea of being a sensual being. 
  1. Choose your method. Dance, Breathe or Shake!  How do you want to connect with your body in a way that feels good to you? Learn to SLOW DOWN your movements. This is the secret in creating confidence and charisma.
  1. Enjoy! Changing your beliefs about what sensuality feels like will come through enjoying the action that you choose. Own the enjoyment, make it yours. Releasing negative connotation to dancing sensually in front of the mirror, or to speak slow and sensually will take time. Don’t let the awkwardness at first put you off.
  1. Share your sensual expression with the world. This is the big step, which will differ for everyone. Wear your bikini at a hotel pool and reject each thought of judgment about it. Try a conversation while slowing your normal speaking pace down, dance at a party with your eyes closed, just for yourself.

I look forward to seeing your confidence radiating from afar.