How does Metaphysical Healing help me have better intimacy?

What is Metaphysical Healing?

“Metaphysics” is roughly translated as “beyond,” or “behind” the physical, implying that the physical reality we experience as tangible and visible is not all that exists. 

We know that our reality is made up of so many levels that are interconnected to make up a whole existence of connected, yet seemingly separate parts.

You as a separate individual, would not exist without at least two other people coming together to create you. The environment you grew up in, influenced who you’ve become. The food you ate, the thoughts you’ve thought the beliefs you’ve acquired have all become part of who you are.

If we ask what the original element was that brought you into existence, we can draw this explanation out to go all the way to the origin of life. I think it is suffice to say that there is more to our existence than meets the eye and metaphysics acknowledges this.

Metaphysical healing aims at acknowledging the origin of a limitation, at its core, or as close to the core as is meaningful for us as individuals. In this way we can remove blocks, limitations and hindrances to our authentic sexual expression, if authentic sexual expression is our goal.

So what could these hindrances be? Let’s look at an example:

You could be madly in love and turned on by someone, yet every time they show closeness to you, you joke around, make a negative comment about yourself, or kill the vibe in another way. 

In one short moment you went from nearly sharing the high energy of sexual exhilaration you were so enthusiastically excited by, to being flat and platonic. 

Why on earth would a person do that?

You may be doing this because there is an underlying fear of closeness. 

If you are the person in this example, at some stage or another, your inner wisdom protected you from closeness, because it was dangerous, unpleasant or harmful in some way. Many situations could grant such reactions, for example, a single parent’s authoritative new partner, who threatened to leave you behind, in competition for your parent’s attention. 

Perhaps your high level of energy was overwhelming for your parents, who scolded you for it, thus you learnt to never get too close to the people you love. 

At a deeper level of your brain, at the midbrain level, a core belief may have formed, that closeness is unsafe, that in order to be loved, housed, fed, be part of a family or to be alive, you have to prevent closeness to the people closest to you. 

That deep part of your brain is what is responsible for bypassing your critical thinking and keep you alive in times where thinking may take too long and guess what, any area of our lives where sexual expression gets involved, are translated as such. You are bound to operate from those reactive parts of you mind, rather than the rational thinking mind … and thank the heavens for that!

You wouldn’t want to have sexual intimacy as if you are reading a recipe book, would you? Well, maybe, initially, that can give you a sense of safety, but mostly us human beings feel confident, expressed and happiest, when our bodies know just what to do and how to do it. 

By becoming conscious of those underlying hidden beliefs and reactions, you can change your expression, without changing who you are as a person. 

Just imagine a life of living free from inhibitions, strengthened by personal values. 

How would you feel about yourself if your desired ventures matched your actual expression? 

Amanda is a metaphysical healer and sex educator who loves to loves to help introverted individuals be fulfilled in the bedroom and out in the world.

Craniosacral Therapy For Sexual Trauma

Many people who inquire about CranioSacral Therapy, assume it is some kind of head massage, while in actual fact this modality reaches far beyond manipulating the physical body to a healing system that touches the soul. Emotional healing that results from this gentle, non-invasive approach can be more profound than what is imaginable. 

CranioSacral Therapy is a light-touch manual therapy technique that helps to restore the unobstructed flow of cerebrospinal fluid between the head and sacrum. Your sacrum is the bone at the center of your pelvis, central to all that important hip movement. 

When the movement of the sacrum is restricted, so is the movement of the hips, and we all know what that means for healthy sensual expression. 

We need our hips to be loose and sexy in order to express ourselves sensually and we need to express ourselves sensually, because it puts us in touch with what it feels like to be desirable and being desirable is kind of the same as being needed, having a purpose, and being validated, which are core human needs. 

When we have endured sexual trauma, it is common to have restrictions on the structures of the pelvis. Trauma can manifest as numbness, stiffness, tightness, pain, lack of mobility, and very often excess weight.

Where there is unresolved trauma there will be a lack of energetic flow in the body. There will be obstruction from one part to another. In facilitating healing, feeling and flow have to be restored in the affected area and this can be done without going into the story of how the injury happened. It is truly an encounter of deep somatic empathy.

Using CranioSacral Therapy, we can elicit where that obstruction is and gently guide the body to release. Receiving this work feels nurturing, validating, and liberating. 

Throughout the spine and at the sacrum, some cerebrospinal fluid gets transported to other systems, such as the lymphatic system, via the nervous system. While scientists are still discovering the exact mechanism for how cerebrospinal is absorbed through our bodies, we know that where the very, very subtle flow of CSF is not palpable, is where trapped energetic debris is locked in the body tissue. This is how a CranioSacral Therapist can accurately determine exactly where to work. 

In a world with so many mixed messages about who and what we are supposed to be; and with a rapidly changing social expectation of acceptable sexual expression it is natural to want to close off, hide or retreat. This is an invitation to do quite the opposite. 

We all have a little shame, guilt, fear, and trauma locked into privacy longing to be liberated through nurture, love, and support. 

Reach out and heal the most vulnerable parts of yourself to fulfill the most basic needs of being human, that of connection, acceptance, and belonging.

Much Love